“If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I’m about to do today?”

Monday, September 29, 2014

Perbezaan Mindset

Sebelum sang ayah menghembuskan nafas terakhir, dia memberi pesan kepada kedua anaknya: “Anakku, dua pesan penting yang ingin ayah sampaikan kepadamu untuk keberhasilan hidupmu”

“Pertama: Jangan sesekali menagih hutang daripada sesiapa pun. Kedua: Jangan sesekali tubuhmu terkena terik matahari secara langsung”


Sang ibu menjenguk anak sulungnya dengan kedudukan perniagaannya yang sgt mendukacitakan.

Si ibu pun bertanya “Wahai anak sulungku kenapa kedudukan perniagaanmu demikian?”.

Si sulung menjawab : “Saya mengikuti pesan ayah bu. Saya dilarang menagih hutang drpd siapapun sehingga banyak hutang yang tidak dibayar dan lama² habislah modal saya. Pesan yang kedua ayah melarang saya terkena sinar matahari secara langsung dan saya hanya hanya ada sebuah motorsikal, itulah sebabnya pergi dan pulang kerja saya selalu naik teksi”.

Kemudian sang ibu pergi ke tempat si bungsu yang keadaannya berbeda jauh. Si bungsu sukses menjalankan perniagaannya.

Sang ibu pun bertanya “Wahai anak bungsuku, hidupmu sedemikian beruntung, apa rahasianya…?”

Si bungsu menjawab : “Ini karena saya mengikuti pesan ayah bu. Pesan yang pertama saya dilarang menagih hutang kepada siapapun. Oleh karena itu saya tidak pernah memberikan hutang kepada siapapun sehingga modal saya tetap kukuh”.

“Pesan kedua saya dilarang terkena sinar matahari secara langsung, maka dengan motorsikal yang saya ada saya selalu berangkat sebelum matahari terbit dan pulang setelah matahari terbenam, sehingga para pelanggan tahu kedai saya buka lebih awal dan tutup lebih lewat”.

Perhatikan …

Si Sulung dan Si Bungsu menerima pesan yang SAMA, namun masing² memiliki penafsiran dan sudut pandang atau MINDSET berbeda. Mereka MELAKUKAN cara yang berbeda sehingga mendapatkan HASIL yang berbeda pula.

Hati² lah dengan Mindset kita. Mindset positif memberi hasil menakjubkan, sebaliknya mindset negatif memberikan hasil menghancurkan. Bijaksanalah menjalani kehidupan ini....

The choice is yours ...!

Saturday, September 27, 2014

The Villager and the Happy Man

In a small village, in the valley, lived a man who was always happy, kind, and well-disposed to everyone he met. He always smiled, and had kind and encouraging words to say, whenever it was necessary. Everyone who met him, left feeling better, happier and elated. People knew they could count on him, and regarded him as a great friend.

One of the village dwellers was curious to know what his secret was, and how he could always be so kind and helpful. He wondered how is it that he held no grudge toward anyone, and always was happy.

Once, upon meeting him in the street he asked him: "Most people are selfish and unsatisfied. They do not smile as often as you do; neither are they as helpful or kind as you are. How do you explain it?"

The man smiled at him and replied, "When you make peace with yourself, you can be in peace with the rest of the world. If you can recognize the spirit in yourself, you can recognize the spirit in everyone, and then you find it natural to be kind and well-disposed to all. If your thoughts are under your control, you become strong and firm.

The personality is like a robot programmed to do certain tasks. Your habits and thoughts are the tools and programs that control your personality. Become free from being programmed, and then the inner good and the happiness that reside within you will be revealed."

"But a lot of work is necessary. Good habits have to be developed. The ability to concentrate and to control the thoughts has to be strengthened. The work is difficult and endless. There are many walls that need to be climbed. It is not an easy task." Lamented the villager.

"Do not think about the difficulties, otherwise this is what you will see and experience. Just quieten your feelings and thoughts, and try to stay in this peace. Just try to be calm, and do not let yourself be carried away by your thoughts."

"Is that all?" Asked the villager.

"Try to watch your thoughts and see how they come and go. Stay in the quietness that arises. The moments of peace will be brief at first, but in time they will get longer. This peace is also strength, power, kindness, and love. This will lead you to act from a different dimension - point of view -consciousness, not from the selfish, small, limited ego."

"I will try to remember your words," said the villager, and continued, "There is another thing that I am curious about. You do not seem to be influenced by the environment. You have a kind word for everyone, and you are helpful. People treat you well, and never exploit your goodness."

"Being good and being kind do not necessarily point to weakness. When you are good, you can also be strong. People sense your inner strength, and therefore, do not impose on you. When you are strong and calm inside, you help people, because you can, and you want to. You act from strength, not from weakness. Goodness is not a sign of weakness, as some people erroneously think. It can manifest together with power and strength."

"Thank you very much for your advice and explanations", said the villager, and went away happy and satisfied.

Tuesday, September 23, 2014

'I'm Not Here to Change the World'

Diana Saw had just had a defining moment.

On a holiday in Cambodia, she had just witnessed a woman selling her baby.

"I was quite traumatised," she said of that experience in 2006.

Sitting in that mother's hut made out of leaves with no toilet, running water or electricity, Diana, then in her mid-30s, thought: "How can two women who are around the same age live in such different circumstances?"

The Singaporean who had just left her job as a regional general manager for a billion dollar company put the difference between her and the woman down to "pure luck", but she didn't leave it at that.

"I thought, what was the best way to help these women after the whole experience? Was it to donate $50,000 to an NGO or should I come and set up something myself?

"I went back home and told my partner that this is what I want to do: I want to come back to Cambodia, start a business, employ single moms."

Within two months, Diana had moved to Cambodia.

And through several failed business ideas, along with the difficulty of learning a new language and living in a different culture, she set up a small workshop making bags out of recycled materials.

Offering wages above the market rate and a cheerful working environment, she gave single mothers, and eventually other at-risk women, stable jobs so they could feel a sense of security.

"May they never sell their children again because they know that there is a job waiting for them and the children can go to school," she explained.

"I'm a big believer in jobs. I think having work, giving meaning to your life, and stability – that's important."

In Cambodia, where there are thousands of NGOs but continued pervasive poverty, it's easy to be disheartened by the magnitude of the social problems.

And it hasn't been easy for Diana running her small social enterprise: she's been cheated by trusted staff members, kicked out by landlords who then sell copycat bags, and even threatened with acid on her face.

Some days she wonders if she's even making a dent.

But then she reminds herself: "I'm not here to change the world. I'm just here to change the lives of those six women, 12 women, and their families."

Sunday, September 21, 2014

Three Funny Short Stories

Story 1: The child and his mother.

A curious child asked his mother: “Mommy, why are some of your hairs turning grey?”

The mother tried to use this occasion to teach her child: “It is because of you, dear. Every bad action of yours will turn one of my hairs grey!”

The child replied innocently: “Now I know why grandmother has only grey hairs on her head.”

Story 2: Wrong email address.

A couple going on vacation but his wife was on a business trip so he went to the destination first and his wife would meet him the next day.

When he reached his hotel, he decided to send his wife a quick email.

Unfortunately, when typing her address, he mistyped a letter and his note was directed instead to an elderly preacher’s wife whose husband had passed away only the day before.

When the grieving widow checked her email, she took one look at the monitor, let out a piercing scream, and fell to the floor in a dead faint.

At the sound, her family rushed into the room and saw this note on the screen:

Dearest Wife,
Just got checked in. Everything prepared for your arrival tomorrow.

P.S. Sure is hot down here.

Story 3: Will’s experience at the airport.

After his return from Rome, Will couldn’t find his luggage in the airport baggage area. He went to the lost luggage office and told the woman there that his bags hadn’t shown up on the carousel.

She smiled and told him not to worry because they were trained professionals and he was in good hands.

Then she asked Will, “Has your plane arrived yet?”

Tuesday, September 16, 2014

Coffee On The Wall

I sat with my friend in a well-known coffee shop in a neighboring town of Venice, Italy, the city of lights and water.

As we enjoyed our coffee, a man entered and sat at an empty table beside us. He called the waiter and placed his order saying, “Two cups of coffee, one of them there on the wall.”

We heard this order with rather interest and observed that he was served with one cup of coffee but he paid for two.

When he left, the waiter put a piece of paper on the wall saying “A Cup of Coffee”.

While we were still there, two other men entered and ordered three cups of coffee, two on the table and one on the wall. They had two cups of coffee but paid for three and left. This time also, the waiter did the same; he put a piece of paper on the wall saying, “A Cup of Coffee”.

It was something unique and perplexing for us. We finished our coffee, paid the bill and left.

After a few days, we had a chance to go to this coffee shop again. While we were enjoying our coffee, a man poorly dressed entered. As he seated himself, he looked at the wall and said, “One cup of coffee from the wall.”

The waiter served coffee to this man with the customary respect and dignity. The man had his coffee and left without paying.

We were amazed to watch all this, as the waiter took off a piece of paper from the wall and threw it in the trash bin.

Now it was no surprise for us – the matter was very clear. The great respect for the needy shown by the inhabitants of this town made our eyes well up in tears.

Ponder upon the need of what this man wanted. He enters the coffee shop without having to lower his self-esteem… he has no need to ask for a free cup of coffee… without asking or knowing about the one who is giving this cup of coffee to him… he only looked at the wall, placed an order for himself, enjoyed his coffee and left.

A truly beautiful thought. Probably the most beautiful wall you may ever see anywhere!

Friday, September 12, 2014

Why Should I feel Bad?

Once, there was this guy, who was in love with a girl. She wasn’t the most beautiful and gorgeous but for him, she was everything. He used to dream about her, about spending the rest of life with her.

His friends told him, “why do you dream so much about her, when you don’t even know if she loves you or not?  First tell her your feelings, and get to know if she likes you or not”.

He felt that was the right way.   The girl knew from the beginning, that this guy loves her.   One day when he proposed, she rejected him.  His friends thought he would take alcohol; drugs etc. and ruin his life.  To their surprise, he was not depressed.

When they asked him how was it that he is not sad, he replied, “‘why should I feel bad? I lost one who never loved me and she lost the one who really loved and cared for her.”

Moral:  True Love is hard to get.  Love is all about giving to other person without greed of gaining anything in return, if other person rejects it, it’s him/her who will be losing the most important thing in life. So never feel dejected.

Monday, September 8, 2014

The Long Wait

I often reminisce those good old days when life was relatively simpler, and people were much more humane and gentle. Recently, to my surprise, I got the opportunity to experience that same warmth that I thought had disappeared from the world.

I was out shopping the other day with my wife, three daughters and son. It was a very hot and humid day, and we were all visibly tired and hungry. We entered a restaurant, looking for some food and comfort.

To our dismay, all the tables were occupied and no one seemed in a hurry to get up. We waited; tired, hungry and impatient. After quite some time, one table was vacated, but that could seat only two of us. My daughter made me sit along with her mother, while she and my other daughters and son stood alongside.

We looked all around us, waiting for another table to be vacated soon. At the next table, two young girls were sitting at a table for six and enjoying their meal. We decided to move to their table, once they were finished with their lunch.

Since the girls had just got their order, I knew it would be a long wait. As we were deciding on what to order, one of the girls got up and offered their table to us. She said they would move to our table so that my family could sit together.

We were very appreciative of their kind gesture. We thanked them profusely and moved to their table. The girls quickly picked up their plates and glasses and went to sit at our table.

That day, I thought to myself there still were some kind, civil and helpful youngsters in this fast moving non-caring world; and my faith in humanity was restored once again.

Abundant Life

Why wish for a trickle of water
When God grants waterfalls?
And why visit only the “dime store”
When man’s made shopping malls?
Why ask for vanilla ice cream
When flavors are grand/galore!

There’s not a thing wrong with vanilla,
But, gee, there are so many more!
Why settle for ten great minutes
When I can have hours and days?
Why strive to earn “B’s” as an average
When I can conceive of straight “A’s?”
Why limit my friends to close ones
When others have so much to give?
Why think only “here” is the best place?
There are wonders wherever I live.

Is the rose fairer than the daisy?
Does the daffodil take first prize?
Who cares? The questions are crazy!
There are Gardens for feasting our eyes!
Does the Rainbow censor its colors?
Does Gravity choose what falls?
Do you think Love cares who shares it?
Infinity has no walls!
I can have as much or as little
Of whatever I dare, my friend.
When I put myself in the middle
I am never aware of an end.
It’s all right here to enjoy …

With abundance the world is rife.
I’m a fine, deserving being
And I’m treating myself to Life!

What Goes Around Comes Around.

Kim and I decided to go to an early show to see a new movie, thinking the crowds wouldn't be as bad. We arrived a little early and were talking during the credits about our day. In came a young girl, followed by a man whom we thought was her father. They sat one row ahead and about two seats to the right. As they began to talk it was clear the man was her father, and their family had come on hard times.

The young girl seemed mature beyond her years. She consoled her father that all would be okay and that she loved him. As they spoke, Kim’s eyes filled with tears, thinking how fortunate this father was to have the love and support of this daughter. You see, the young girl had commented on how long it had been since her father had taken the time to relax.

This young lady reminded her dad of the times past when they would go to movies together, sitting, talking, crying and laughing. These were times she missed, she knew her dad did as well, but had dedicated himself fully to correcting the ills the economy placed on their finances.

It became obvious to us they had chosen the matinee because the tickets were less expensive. They had bought a small value drink and popcorn and were sharing it happily. This young lady had saved her money from tending to have just enough to allow them to enjoy this daddy/daughter date as in times not too long ago. The father expressed gratitude for this expression of love, promising the girl they would get back to the good old times soon.

Next, entering while talking on a mobile phone was a woman who appeared to be rushed and impatient. She took the seat right in front of us two rows down. She had a combo snack with popcorn and a drink as well. It became obvious to us she was waiting for someone, and they were to meet at the movie. This woman was “put out” that she had taken off work early to meet this person who was late. She had unkind words over the phone; then we realized she was talking to her daughter.

The mother stormed out of the theater. Kim and I remarked at how the two families were experiencing totally different lives. The mother seemed to have it all with no concern for time or money, yet she had no relationship of value with her child. On the other hand, the father, while perhaps having no surplus cash, had a deep and meaningful relationship with his daughter.

The movie started with the theater becoming dark. After about fifteen minutes this mother and her daughter came marching in through the doors. Their eyes had not adjusted yet, so they had difficulty getting to their seats. The mother missed her row and proceeded to sit next to this father and his daughter. Now they were right in front of us so we could hear the frustration in both the mother and her daughter.

They had words; the daughter stated, “Mom I knew this wouldn't work. Let’s just leave. Who cares about this stupid movie?” Shock registered on the little girl who sat next to them as she was having the time of her life and didn't understand. The mother had taken the seat on the outside so the young girls were sitting together.

After a few minutes the mother remembered she had bought treats and looked over to see where they were. She was shocked to see the man and his daughter next to them were eating the popcorn and had the drink. She bent over and whispered to her daughter, “That’s our popcorn they are eating.” Her daughter said, “So what?” But the mother kept eyeing this family as they ate.

The young girl with the dad could see the mother next to her was talking about the popcorn and wondered if they wanted some. She leaned over to her dad and said, “Daddy, I am going to share our popcorn with these people. I don’t think they have the money to buy some for themselves.”

The father responded, “Sure, ask them, but be quiet so we don’t disturb anyone.” This little girl reached over, handing her bucket to her neighbor in the next seat asking, “Do you and your mom want some popcorn?” The other girl said, “No, I am good, thanks though.” The mother angrily reached over, “Certainly we want our popcorn.” The little girl was taken back but thought to herself that they must be hungry.

The mother kept the popcorn on her seat and ate slowly. After a few minutes we could see the little girl was wondering if she would get the popcorn back, when the mother asked if she could have the drink. “Yes, certainly,” was the response of this girl as she handed it to the lady. She then bent over to her dad and said, “Daddy, we don’t really need those treats anyway; they are not having a good day.” She reached over and held her father’s hand. The lady kept the drink and the popcorn. This didn't seem to affect the father or daughter at all.

The woman’s daughter leaned over to her mother and asked if she could go and buy some candy. The mother snapped back, “Yes, why don’t you ask the family next to us if they want something,” stating it sarcastically. “My purse is under the seat. Just hurry,” she exclaimed. The girl reached under the seat and was unable to find the purse. Boiling over, the mother leaned over her daughter and said to the young girl sitting next to them, “Did you steal my purse as well?”

Shocked, the little girl clasped her father’s hand as he said, “I don’t know what you are talking about. Could it be under the seat you had when you came in?” “What are you talking about,” this mother snapped back at the father! He kindly pointed to the row in front of them and said, “This is the seat you took originally.” The mother looked on the row in front of them and saw her popcorn and drink.

At that time Kim and I became aware of what had happened and were shocked to see her reaction as she handed back both the drink and the remaining popcorn. “I am so sorry,” she said. She was truly embarrassed, as well as humbled, by the young girl’s generosity. The lady reached for her purse and got some money out to give the girl for her misunderstanding. The young girl had no interest and suggested she was happy to share.

As Kim and I drove home, we talked about how this simple, yet profound, experience gave us perspective on how easy it is to misunderstand. This woman thought the family next to her had stolen, when, in fact, they had given the “widow’s might.” We realized how often others deserve the benefit of doubt before we place judgment.

This is just a story; one I wanted to use to illustrate the following: Have a generous heart; it will serve you well. Know as we go through life our impressions can be one hundred and eighty degrees from reality. Our greatest relationships come through selflessness and understanding. And, if we’re lucky as we do so, we will find that “What goes around comes around.”

Monday, September 1, 2014

2 Stories with Morals

Story 1: Fear and Respect

Long time ago very cruel king name Virat Singh was ruling the city of Vijay Nagar. All citizens were fearful because of his cruelty.

Virat has a dog named Jack, which he used to love more than anything, one fateful morning Jack died. Virat Singh organized last rituals for dog; entire city came to cremation ground.

Virat Singh was very happy to see that people love him so much and he felt he is the most popular king in the world. After few days Virat Singh died, but no one came for his funerals.

Moral: Respect is something you have to earn, you cannot force it on others to respect you. There is a thin line between Fear and Respect, every one of us should understand it and do necessary corrections in our personalities.

Story 2: Helping Others

Once there was a small boy named Shankar. He belonged to a poor family.  One day, he was crossing through the forest carrying some woods.

He saw an old man who was very hungry.  Shankar wanted to give him some food, but he did not have food for his own.  So he continued on his way. 

On his way he saw a deer who was very thirsty.  He wanted to give him some water, but he did not have water for himself.  So he went on his way ahead. 

Then he saw a man who wanted to make a camp but he did not have woods.  Shankar asked his problem and gave some woods to him.  In return, he gave him some food and water. 

Now he went back to the old man and gave him some food and gave some water to the deer. The old man and the deer were very happy.  Shankar than happily went on his way.

However, one day Shankar fell down the hill.  He was in pain but he couldn’t move and no one was there to help him. 

But, the old man who he had helped before saw him, he quickly came and pulled him up the hill.  He had many wounds on his legs. 

The deer whom shankar had gave water saw his wounds and quickly went to forest and brought some herbs.  After sometime his wounds were covered. 

All were very happy that they were able to help each other.

Moral: If you help others, then they will also help you.